Saturday, 27 February 2010

The Joy Luck Club

  If you haven't seen the 1993 movie, "The Joy Luck Club," I highly recommend it.  I read the book by Amy Tan in my Asian American Literature course in my undergrad and we watched most of it in while in class. Scott and I checked it out from the library and watched it last night and I had forgotten how good it is.  It is a good mother-daughter movie, filled with stories of mothers trying to make a better life for their American-born daughters, and their daughters growing up with a double-consciousness of being a woman with Asian ancestors, growing up in America.  Watch it with a box of tissues though because I cried and I know Scott's eyes were moist (sorry babe). 

What I love about both the book and the film, is that it touches any mother-daughter relationship.  Guys sometimes just can't understand the aspects of this strange relationship because it is just not the same for fathers and sons or mothers and sons.  One moment mothers can be at each other, making each other cry; and the next minute, laughing and going shopping.  Or mothers can want so much for their daughters' lives to turn out differently than theirs that they push them back into that same situation, only on different terms.


I leave you with one of my favorite quotes from the movie (and the book):
"Even though I taught my daughter the opposite, still she came out the same way.  Maybe it is because she was born to me and she was born a girl, and I was born to my mother and I was born a girl, all of us like stairs, one step after another, going up, going down, but always the same way."

Friday, 26 February 2010

Julie + Julia + Julian (post 1)

So I'm sure most know about the new film, "Julie and Julia."  If not, Julie is a "government drone by day, renegade foodie by night," a blog writer from Brooklyn who decides to start blogging about cooking through Julia Child's cookbook.  This brings in Julia Child, who even more people know, as the great American cook who learns the art of French food! The film is about these two women's lives and I try to watch it at least twice a week...I just love it! I decided to start a series of posts where I will blog about food and end with a word from my third character, Julian of Norwich.  Julian was a 14th Century Christian mystic who received visions from God and wrote them in her work called, The Showings of Julian of Norwich.  I did my senior seminar paper in my undergrad on her writings as early feminism.


So my first topic: Cornbread
I can remember eating cornbread probably before anything else.  Mom would make two or three small pones in her little cast-iron skillets and we would put butter on it right out of the oven so it would melt. I would take it in my lunch the next day, and I just don't think there is a better snack! I have gotten quite good at making cornbread already (still waiting for the success with corn muffins) and use my mom's trick of using Martha White self-rising cornmeal.  You just follow the instructions on the bag and then, (what they don't say in the recipe), before placing the mixture in the oven, add a little of your oil to ensure that it doesn't crumble.  When you take it out of the oven, don't try to take it our with a spatula; lay your serving plate down and plop the cornbread right on there upside down.  (The bottom of the cornbread often looks better than the top anyway.)  Scott and I prefer our cornbread pretty crisp on the outside but very soft and white on the inside.  This way you get a good crunch in your first bite!  Here was one of my first attempts!



Here is a link to other cornbread recipes! 

So, as promised, to end the food discussion, I will end with a word from Julian, her most famous: "All shall be well, all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well"

Thursday, 25 February 2010

marrying my best friend...

So now I will post some pictures of our wedding.  We were married at our church, Gladeville Presbyterian, on a beautiful snowy January 2nd.  It was perfect! I was so surprised at how everything flew by, though.  People had told me it would but I could never have imagined.  We were married at 4:00 and the only lighting in the church was provided by the beautiful windows, the lit Christmon tree, and lots of candles and lanterns.  Everything was perfect!! It was a beautiful beginning to a beautiful marriage.  


 




  

 

 

 

  


  


a post devoted to our engagement...

After browsing other blogs, I have seen a lot of engagement and wedding inspiration pictures so I've decided to devote a post to our photos.  Scott proposed to me on 9/9/09 on a weekend when I was visiting him at school.  He took me to the chapel on campus and we sat on the front row together.  Then he got down on one knee in front of me and held in his hands a beautiful white gold engagement ring with three blue sapphires with three tiny diamonds on each side.  I couldn't have picked out a better ring myself! It was beautiful and so was the proposal!!  Of course I said yes and we proceeded to call our parents and tell them of the news on the phone.  
We had always talked about having a fall or winter wedding and soon set the date for 1/2/10.  We thought it was very appropriate since my parents' anniversary is December 1st and his parents were married February 4th -  so we were right in the middle!  In November a friend of his parents' took our engagement pictures.  The shoot was very sentimental to us because the photos were taken in places that had personal meaning to us.  Our first stop was at the college where we both graduated from our undergrad and also where we met - at the college's theater.  


 
[our chuck taylor's : )]

[we found inspiration for this on the internet!! so glad we incorporated it!]


 
[these are some of our favorites - in our wellies and working with what the day gave us - 
mud and rain]

[our take on American Gothic]

 

 

 
Our next stop for the shoot was our church which means a lot to both of us...



 


[This one is very special because we are sitting in the pews where we sang in choir each Sunday...our Engagement photo shoot was a lot of fun and we made some new memories in some old places...thanks to John McCaroll Photography!]

Wednesday, 24 February 2010

ruthlessly misinterpreting Ruth

Those of you who are tuning in to my blog will notice that I changed the look quite a bit.  I made this blog last year and re-started it this year and didn't think the look still suited me.  I have to say, customizing can become quite addictive so I have decided to stick with this style for a while.


After reading Ruth the other day, it reminded me of a paper that I had to write a year ago for my Intro to Women's Studies course.  We had been assigned to read a book about Women in the Criminal Justice System.  In the introduction of the book, there was a comment saying that the Bible started all the misogamist ideas that we now see in society.  Now, while I agree with the author of this book that Paul was not the easiest critic of women, I don't think that the Bible is itself non-feminist.  Along with the example of Paul, the author of the book said that the Bible presents such examples of submissive women like Ruth....yes, ladies, she gave Ruth as an example.  She didn't stop there; rather, she proceeded to quote Ruth 1:17-18: "Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me."  The author gives readers the impression that Ruth is talking to a man and promising to do whatever he wants her to do.  She is actually talking to her widowed mother-in-law, Naomi, pledging to stay with her. Rather than being submissive, she is actually going against social norms that would have required her to enter back into her own parents' home because of her own status as widow.  I was appalled and devastated that this book had even been published and that someone could misinterpret and mislead others about Ruth.  She is one of my favorite women in the Bible.  She is strong, determined, and faithful to her fellow woman and mother-in-law, Naomi.  She is a wonderful role model for women today.

Tuesday, 23 February 2010

Taking Bullets and Twitterature...

So I'm not in my undergrad anymore...although this is not my first realization of it.  For example, tonight our professor had all of our thesis statements printed out for us on sheets of paper which he then proceeded to pass out to each student in the class.  He then brutally played "devil's advocate" in order to "thicken our skins" and help us weed out all of the stacked claims and illogicalities.  Needless to say, it was like taking bullets; not to mention everyone was sweating bullets.  You could almost feel the perspiration gathering in the room.  We all survived though and I hope we are all better for it.  


On a lighter, less daunting, note while sitting in Barnes and Noble today, I found myself next to the humor section in the cafe.  Skimming the shelves after reading several pages of my assigned reading for class, I found a book called Twitterature: Humorous reworkings of literary classics for the twenty-first century, in digestible portions of 20 tweets or fewer.  Like a good English major I went over to investigate and found it quite interesting.  If you visit the link above you will be redirected to the website where you can read examples from HamletHarry Potter, and unfortunately, The Da Vinci Code (would we really categorize that as a literary classic?).  I'm not quite sure how exactly I feel about the fact that the first "classic" listed is The Catcher in the Rye, or that the twenty-first century needs "digestible portions" of the classics.  But it did get me quite excited about the prospect of bringing Twitterature into my future high school English classroom (if Twitter is even popular then...either way I think they will like the simple, humorous "reworkings" of the classics).  What I found most interesting about this book is that it was written in a dorm room by two guys from the University of Chicago; they are presently nineteen years old!


Twitterature story on NPR

Monday, 22 February 2010

Billy Collins

One of my favorite poets is Billy Collins.  He often writes about the art of writing poetry.  Here is one called "The Poems of Others," that comes from his new book of poems, Ballistics:


The Poems of Others


Is there no end to it
the way they keep popping up in magazines
then congregate in the drafty orphanage of a book?


You would think the elm would speak up,
but like the dawn it only inspires - then more of them
   appear.
Not even the government can put a stop to it.


Just this morning, one approached me like a possum,
snout twitching, impossible to ignore.
Another looked out of the water at me like an otter.


How can anyone dismiss them
when they dangle from the eaves of houses
and throw themselves in our paths?


Perhaps I am being harsh, even ridiculous.
It could have been the day at the zoo
that put me this way - all the children by the cages - 


as if only my poems had the right to exist
and people would come down from the hills
in the evening to view them in rooms of white marble.


So I will take the advice of the mentors
and put this in a drawer for a week
maybe even a year or two and then have a calmer
   look at it - 


but for now I am going to take a walk
through this nearly silent neighborhood
that it my winter resting place, my hibernaculum,


and get my mind off the poems of others
even as they peer down from the trees
or bark at my passing in the guise of local dogs.


And here is a poem that I wrote about poetry and writing, called "Writing Circles:"


I say that everything has been thought of
Every metaphor and simile has been compared
And every phrase of mere brilliance has been placed within its perfect syntax

I imagine the last poet glancing at the sky and seeing life’s melody play before him in the clouds, turning to his typewriter and painting it for others to see and hear

The lonely woman in the park who sees the green grass before her and imagines the small world that plays out beneath her bare feet, writing the small screenplay in her leather-bound notebook.

And the clever college graduate who pulls out his Blackberry to discover that time is a cage that traps us all in its sad game of catch and we have no base to wait on and think for one moment, sending along his message that will be read once and tossed into a recycle bin

The poet’s typewritten words are later found within the messages of a recycled newspaper advertisement about a city whose sky is polluted by paper factory smoke

The lonely woman’s ink seeps through the ground to the ants below, who play out the script she wrote for them and carry away the small pieces of paper one word at a time

And the clever college graduate’s message is lost within the galaxy of cyberspace where moons and planets spin around a black hole and never quite find their way to the light of the sun

And I lay down my pencil, thankful for the revolving life we live and the way things must come full circle…

Books everywhere...

Cicero said, "A room without books is like a body without a soul."  I would like to say my husband and I took this to heart and decided to put these words into action, but the truth is being an English grad student and my husband presently getting his PhD in Theology, there was just no choice but to have a lot of books.  Furthermore, we presently live in a one-bedroom apartment so as you will see below, we have found some creative places to store our beloved books...yes that is our toilet...and yes those are books above our kitchen cabinets!





...and you can never have too many bookcases!


Sunday, 21 February 2010

Books to read...

So some of my friends asked me for some reading suggestions so I thought I would share what I have been reading lately! One book that I read after seeing the author had come out with another novel besides The Time Traveler's Wife, is Audrey Neffeneger's Her Fearful Symmetry. It begins with two 20-year-old twins who have inherited a flat in London from their recently-deceased aunt. In her will, she stipulates that the twins must live there for at least a year before deciding what to do about it. The twins' mother and their aunt are also identical twins. This small blurb was enough for me to begin reading it and I just couldn't put it down once I started it. I actually thought it was much better than her first novel.

Another novel that I read over Christmas break, was Katherine Howe's The Physick Book of Deliverance Dane. This is the author's first novel, and again, it was one that I could not put down once opening its pages. The book is also marketed well because when you see the cover that looks like an old notebook from the 1600's, you just want to open it and see what's inside! I highly recommend these two books!

Other authors/books I enjoy:
Tracy Chevalier - all of her books (they are historical fiction!)
Sophie Kinsella - hilarious books! don't be fooled by the Shopoholic movie...these books are good, fun, easy reads!
Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen - another interesting historical fiction about being a part of a traveling circus!
To See You Again by Betty Schimmel - a wonderful love story set in the Holocaust...one of my mother's favorites
The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield
American Bloomsbury by Susan Cheever - biography about the lives and loves of Alcott, Emerson, Fuller, Hawthorne, and Thoreau

Books I want to read:
Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford
Rebecca by Daphne DuMaurier
Remarkable Creatures by Tracy Chevalier


Thursday, 18 February 2010

...Patience...

I have a problem with patience...When I get frustrated and impatient my husband will jokingly call me Veruca (Salt), referring to the character in Willy Wonka. I have quite a bad habit of always wanting more...and wanting it now. I know as some of you are reading this, Veruca's famous song is playing in your heads and you can picture her dancing around the "geeses" and twirling herself around pastel colored plastic wrap. In my defense, it is not so much that I am terribly selfish and want everything at a very fast pace, rather sometimes I want to make sure that I am taking enough action; that I am meeting God halfway.

To give you my most recent example, for the last few weeks I have been diligently filling out resumes, taking online employee tests, and traveling from one Starbucks to the next trying to get a job. My number one pick was always to be able to get a job teaching guitar lessons as I have done for the last four years. First, I waited around thinking no one liked me and I was loser, basically just feeling sorry for myself that I wasn't getting a call back. This would only make me try harder, resorting to the possibility of a 2010 Census job (which there is absolutely nothing wrong with). Finally hearing back from a local guitar shop about an opening for a teacher, I was thrilled! And yet, I still could not understand why none of the other jobs had even bothered to call. Not only had I been called back by someone, but it was by the very job that I wanted the most - but I still wanted more. I still wanted a flood of calls from all of my other prospects just for that reassurance that I wasn't a loser. Little did I know, or realize, that God had already provided me with my heart's desire.

This is one of the "thorns in my flesh" that I have to work on and pray about each day. My "Veruca complex" is not a healthy one, but it is one that can be taken away with prayer and God's guidance. My impatience also stems from worrying that I am not trying hard enough or meeting God halfway. The truth is, God has a plan and His own timeline that may not be the same as ours - it most every time isn't on our timeline because mostly we "want it now!" God will not send us down a bad egg chute, but he may send us on a different path, and He has our best interest.

Today I went in to meet the studio manager of the guitar shop and he showed me my room. It is in the front of the building with large windows overlooking the cute town outside. I can't wait to start getting new students! I will pray for patience until then : )

Wednesday, 17 February 2010

Contemplating Lent...a poem

ashes

made into crosses.
fingerprints
traveling across smooth,
and wrinkled
foreheads.
we stand like mirrors
wearing our small signs
out into the dark world -
small lights
traveling into cold court rooms,
office buildings,
and classrooms.
they wore theirs on battlefields,
on streets,
and in camps -
yellow canvas patches,
stars shining on their dark clothes.
they wore them proudly
and unashamed -
their cross to bear.
they were piled next to their
suitcases,
their shoes,
and their
ashes.

Ash Wednesday

Today I had the privilege of attending a catholic funeral. It was the funeral of the 89-year-old mother of the professor that my husband works for. I say the privilege because it was one of the most beautiful funeral services I have ever attended. It began with the singing of "Ave Maria" by a woman while her husband played on the classical guitar. It was also an Ash Wednesday service because, well...it landed on Ash Wednesday. When my husband and I went up to get the ashes painted on our foreheads in the shape of a cross, and as I could see all those around me with the painting on their faces, it reminded me of the Holocaust. For two reasons, Ash Wednesday and Lent reminds me of the Jewish people. First, the visual appearance of the ashes, reminds me of the ashes of those who lost their lives in the Holocaust. For some reason, ashes seem to always bring about the image of the Holocaust victims. Second, it is the one day where Christians openly display an outward sign of their faith for all the world to see. Just as the star of David was worn by the Jews to show their faith, we wear our crosses of ashes to show to whom we belong. Just as I'm sure the Jews wore their sign of faith proudly and unashamed, so do Christians wear their sign of faith on Ash Wednesday.

Because my husband attends a Catholic university, I figured that most people would know what the cross of ashes on his forehead would signify, I did not assume that the students at my public university would take notice of my cross; I thought perhaps they would comment that I had something on my forehead and motion to wipe it away. What I did not expect, and what I was very pleasantly surprised to find, was that as soon as I boarded the shuttle for campus, three people mentioned that they would also be taking the cross of ashes later in the day. The conversation then turned into a sharing of what each person was going to give up during the Lent season. I was very much blessed today by both the Ash Wednesday service and by the small, somewhat insignificant, conversation on the shuttle; they both brought me joy and a sense of fellowship with fellow Christians.

As Christians, we should wear our crosses each day for all to see. I am not saying that we should draw crosses in ash on our foreheads each morning in addition to brushing our teeth and applying make-up, rather as Christians, we should show others to whom we belong no matter what day of the year or Church calendar.